Have you ever kicked a bad habit only to slip right back
into it again?
I read this story that demonstrated how we can kick bad
habits for good. It’s not a fast easy fix. It’s hard but it is possible.
The story is from Alma chapter 24 in the Book of Mormon. It takes place
between 90 and 77 B.C. During these years the Lamanites were a group of people who basically
interacted with others in Survival of the
Fittest Living. If a person had more
power and strength than another and things didn’t go his way, he would have no
problem killing people. The life of a
fellow human being was not valued. They
would steal from each other or snuff each other out with very little
cause. There were no laws to prevent
this from happening. So in general, they
were a me-first driven people. And this was habitual. It was not just in a few people. This was a society-wide habit. They were murderers in their hearts. And much of this was because of their
ignorance of any better way to live.
But in Alma, chapter 17 (around 90 B.C.), a group of
missionaries came over from the Nephites (another group of people living in a
different nation or country) to teach the Lamanites about God—Jesus Christ and
his Gospel. They basically explained why Survival of the Fittest Living was not
good for them individually or as a group and taught them how Paradoxical Living was much better.
Paradoxical Living in a Nutshell
Instead of reacting to other people’s Imbalanced behavior by
retaliating--hurting or killing them (with words, behaviors, or weapons) when things don’t
go our way, we are to respond in Balance.
We bear one another’s burdens, endure other people’s bad behavior,
whether it is purposefully done to us or not.
We continue doing good to others even if they don’t do good to us. And we do this with the knowledge that what
we do unto others will be done unto us.
It may not necessarily be done unto us by our enemies or even our
friends but it will be done unto us somehow someway. God (our General Cause) makes sure of
that.
Yet we are required to let go of
our life. It may turn out that we do
indeed get injured or even die. But the
crux of the situation is that this physical--temporal life and all its rewards is not the only life
we have to live for. We are also living
for an eternal life—one that’s going on now and continues to go on after we
die. And we feel this life in our
souls. It is the Joy we feel inside of
us despite all the chaos going on around us (John 14:27).
How we respond to our trials and other people’s imbalanced behavior in
this physical-temporal life determines how amazing that eternal life—that Joy
is and will be forever.
This is so paradoxical because it seems like we are losing
in this physical-temporal life where things are readily seen and known. The Paradox is:
Mark 8
So these Nephite missionaries taught the Lamanites about the
Gospel—this Paradoxical Living. And it's interesting that they actually practiced what they preached in crossing the boarder into their land.
It was a dangerous task as the Nephites and Lamanites had been mortal
enemies for over 500 years.
But
miracles happened. Many of the Lamanites
actually believed them! They were
introduced to this better world—this eternal world for the first time. And for the first time they felt it! And it completely overwhelmed them. They never knew it existed before and
suddenly it dawned upon them like the brightest spring morning after a dark
stormy winter. Joy entered their souls so
profoundly and completely that their hearts were changed in a very short period
of time. Many people went from being
murderers to being children of Christ. The contrast was stark, especially to
them. They looked upon their past choices,
the bad habits and attendant sorrow in which they had resided and never wanted to return. They didn’t
even know they were living in sorrow before.
They only recognized it once they tasted the Joy of this eternal
world. Thus they didn’t ever want to
touch that kind of Survival of the Fittest behavior again.
1 Nephi 21:24-25 |
The Lamanites described these bad habits as stains. Once we get a stain on our clothes, it does
not come out in the wash like regular dirt does. Stains require careful treatment, special
chemicals, scrubbing, bleach. And once
they’re out, we are extra careful not to get them again.
There were many Lamanites who converted. They changed their names from Lamanites to
Anti-Nephi-Lehies. But the Lamanites
that had not converted turned upon this new group in Survival of the Fittest
behavior (like an auto-immune disease). They prepared for war. Their Desire?
To kill all these people for what they believed in.
And this is where the crucial conjunction is presented to
the Anti-Nephi-Lehies. Do they take up
their swords again to save their own lives? Or do they keep their commitment to never kill again?
This is what they decide:
So they buried their bad habits and never engaged
in them again even to protect their own lives (to read the whole story see Alma 24).
Alma 46:11-13 and 43:45-47 |
My Conclusions to this Story
There is mercy. We
can repent. But if we continuously
engage in a behavior over an extended period of time enough so it becomes a bad
habit, getting out isn’t going to be easy.
It is possible but there are eternal costs even to us. If we’re going to repent, we can’t be a wimp
about it. It is going to require us to
live a higher law. We’re going to have
to step it up, sacrifice at a higher level AND humble ourselves to depend upon other people. It is just the way that
it is.
Open-Heart Surgery
Matthew 18:8-9 |
Listen: "Nothing Compares 2 U" by Sinead O'Connor |
If we have engaged in a behavior long enough for selfish
reasons, we won’t be able to engage in the same behavior for empathetic reasons
without slipping back into the ruts of selfishness.
At least not for a long time. If
the bad habit is closely associated with a life-sustaining need, it is going to
be even more difficult to undo.
If we have gone about obtaining an inherent life-sustaining
need in selfish ways for an extended period of time, the only way we are ever
going to get out of this kind of prison is surgery! Spiritual surgery is what we are doing RIGHT
NOW, in every blog post I write, and in every Servant video I create. We are dissecting the variables of the soul. In this post we are operating on: what makes a habit bad and what makes it
good. Once we know this, we understand
how we can eventually re-engage in the life-sustaining behavior. It can only ever be done empathetically—with
the intent to benefit someone else, not ourselves. In the end we will be benefited. Our needs will be met but we need to develop
the mind-muscle, the faith, to the point that our thinking and behavior in all things is
Paradoxical, never Survival.
Spiritual Surgery = Imparting the Word of God |
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